Adoption Story One

Adopting our first child.....

Our first child who was so little when he came into our care is not so little anymore. He was so small. He is now almost 14 years old!

We have loved this child since the first day he placed in our care. He was eight years old. He was our very first child. My husband and I couldn't have children and so we chose to adopt. We have enjoyed every minute of it!
For the most part, he is a well behaved young man. We have had a challenge with this boy though. He missed out on so many vital things as a small child, before he came into our care. He is several years behind emotionally. He has had a very hard time in academics at school. Part of this was due to malnutrition and part was due to the fact that several times a year he was shifted from one home to another, due to the lack of foster care homes. Every time he'd get settled into a new school, it was time for him to move again. He never got the fine gross motor skills that he needed to move on. He was moved from one grade to the next without ever grasping any of it. We try to help him as much as we can, but there are some things he just can get. As far as everything in common sense matters, well..... that's a real challenge too.
He has reached intro a hot oven with no mitts. He has wildly ripped cords out of electric sockets, due to the fact that his mind is always so pre-occupied. He has crossed the road without ever even looking! Even though he is a teenager, we really have to limit what he is mature enough to handle. He seems like an average teenager at a glance, but when you spend enough time with him, he is quite different. There are times he prefers to act much younger. I am talking like crawling around on the floor like a baby, playing with baby toys, or wishing he could ride in the baby seat on the back of my bicycle. When you point this out to him, he denies this and gets quite embarrassed to have it pointed out, but it's true.
Little by very little he matures, but then often slides back. We feel and hope he will eventually catch up, but there will always be lack of attention. That is fine with us. We love him regardless of any little flaws. We just try to keep him safe. Regardless of how much knowledge he may be lacking, he is very loving and compassionate person that the world could stand to have many more of.
We don't regret the choice to adopt a special needs child at an older age.

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